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Trauma responses are an intricate tapestry of physical, mental, and emotional reactions that individuals may undergo after enduring a traumatic event or a series of distressing experiences. These responses are your body and mind’s way of navigating the turbulent waters of trauma, an attempt to cope with the overwhelming stress.
It’s crucial to recognize that these responses are a shared human experience when grappling with the aftermath of narcissistic abuse. They represent your mind and brain’s valiant effort to manage the extraordinary stress and danger you’ve faced. Acknowledging and comprehending these responses becomes a pivotal milestone on the path to trauma recovery and healing.
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Fight or flight
The instinctual reaction to confront or escape a threatening situation.
Example: People might confront the narcissist by standing up to them or, in some cases, may try to escape the abusive relationship altogether.
Freeze
A response where a person becomes immobilized or “shuts down” during a traumatic event. Examples such as holding breath, panic attacks, dissociating, and inability to move.
Example: A person might become immobilized, unable to respond or speak up. They may find it difficult to move or take action.
Fawn
This happens when a person tries to avoid or minimize the danger.
Example: People in narcissistic abuse may engage in people-pleasing behaviors, avoid setting boundaries, and overextend themselves to avoid conflict.
Hyperarousal
An increased state of alertness often leads to anxiety, irritability, difficulty concentrating, exaggerated startle response, and difficulty sleeping.
Example: This response may manifest as constant anxiousness, irritability, and difficulty sleeping due to the heightened state of alertness caused by ongoing abuse.
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Hyper-independence
An intense form of self-reliance, an avoidance of relying on others.
Example: Some people may develop an intense form of self-reliance as a defense mechanism, avoiding relying on others to protect themselves from potential harm.
Flashbacks
Vivid and distressing recollections of the traumatic event, which can feel as if they are happening again.
Example: People may experience vivid and distressing recollections of the abusive events, feeling as if they are happening again, causing emotional distress.
Avoidance
Efforts to avoid reminders of the trauma, including people, places, or situations.
Example: Efforts to avoid reminders of the trauma may lead a person to avoid people, places, or situations that trigger memories of the abuse.
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Dissociation
A disconnection from one’s thoughts, feelings, or surroundings as a way to cope with overwhelming trauma.
Example: People may disconnect from their thoughts, feelings, or surroundings as a coping mechanism to detach from the overwhelming trauma.
Emotional Numbing
Feeling emotionally detached or unable to experience usual emotions.
Example: A person might become emotionally detached, finding it challenging to experience their usual emotions due to the emotional toll of the abuse.
Difficulty Trusting
Struggling to trust others due to past trauma experiences. Believing that others are untrustworthy, cruel, or will cause harm. Difficulty feeling safe around others.
Example: Past traumatic experiences can make it hard for people to trust others, leading to skepticism and fear of vulnerability.
Physical Symptoms
Manifest as a result of the ongoing emotional and mental strain.
Examples: Stress-related physical issues like headaches or stomachaches, and other stress-related physical issues.
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Repetition Compulsion
It is an instance where a person unconsciously repeats aspects of the traumatic event in their life, often in an attempt to gain mastery over it.
Example: Some people might unconsciously repeat aspects of the abusive dynamic in their lives, hoping to gain control or understanding over the trauma.
Some people may experience heightened trauma symptoms or emotional distress around the anniversary of the traumatic event.
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Anniversary or Time-Based Triggers
Some people may experience heightened trauma symptoms or emotional distress around the anniversary of the traumatic event.
Example: Trauma symptoms may intensify around the anniversary of the traumatic events, as certain dates or times serve as reminders of the abuse.
Spiritual Crisis
Trauma can lead to questioning one’s spiritual or religious beliefs, resulting in a crisis of faith or a search for deeper meaning.
Example: People may question their spiritual or religious beliefs as a result of the trauma, leading to a crisis of faith or a search for deeper meaning to make sense of their experiences.
Hypervigilance
A heightened awareness of potential threats can result in being constantly on guard.
Example: A person may become constantly on guard, overly aware of potential threats, and may even anticipate abuse or harm in various situations.
Negative Changes in Beliefs and Feelings
Persistent negative thoughts about yourself or the world, distorted blame or guilt, and loss of interest in activities.
Example: People who have experienced trauma may develop negative beliefs about themselves or the world, leading to a sense of hopelessness.
Emotional Dysregulation
Intense and often unpredictable emotional responses, including difficulty managing anger, grief, depression, or anxiety.
Example: A person may struggle to manage their emotional responses, often experiencing sadness, anxiety, or more to situations that remind them of the abuse.
Irritability and Anger
Example: People may have sudden and intense anger outbursts, often over seemingly small issues.
The past or present abuse has left heightened sensitivity to perceived threats, resulting in anger and irritability.
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Negative Changes in Mood and Thoughts
Persistent negative thoughts about yourself or the world, distorted blame or guilt, and loss of interest in activities.
Example: A person who has experienced trauma develops negative beliefs about themselves and the world, leading to a sense of hopelessness.
Loss of Meaning
A sense of loss of purpose or meaning in life, feeling empty or detached from things that once held significance.
Relationship Difficulties
Struggling with forming and maintaining healthy relationships, often experiencing difficulties with trust and boundaries.
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