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Essential Steps to Going No Contact from a Narcissist

Freeing yourself from the toxic grip of a narcissist is no easy deed. The trauma bond is real. Whether it’s a romantic partner, family member, friend, job, or institution the emotional and mental abuse creates deep scars. Going “no contact” is a powerful step towards reclaiming your life. This blog will help you to explore essential points about how to go no contact from the narcissist.

First things first. Change starts with you. Going no contact requires true commitment. It is not an easy decision. Generally, victims and survivors struggle in the beginning stages of no contact. When you go no contact you are actively choosing to not let the narcissist have control over you anymore.

You can expect to feel intense feelings of grief. Emotions of depression, sadness, bargaining, anger, loss, shame, and guilt happen as you let go of the narcissist. The longing to connect back to the person you loved and or trusted is hard to break. The difficulties that come from going no contact feel very much like withdrawal symptoms. As challenging as going no contact is, it helps you heal from narcissistic abuse.

It is important to acknowledge that some people, for various reasons, are not able to go no contact. In the event someone cannot go no contact it is important to consider going low contact.

Going No Contact Means Going No Contact

No contact means severing all ties and communication with the narcissist. It is the most challenging, yet crucial, step towards healing. Examples of no contact are no texting, calling, messaging, sending messages via someone else, blocking the narcissist’s number, deleting them from your social media accounts, and not looking at their socials. No contact means no contact.

Recognize the Narcissistic Cycle

Let me start by saying something you already know. Being with a narcissist is exhausting. In the beginning, all you know is the person you once trusted has become a monster. When you do not know what you are dealing with and what is happening it is hard to know what is going on. Every part of dealing with the narcissist is excruciatingly confusing. Nothing makes sense.

Knowing the narcissistic cycle of abuse is crucial. When you are in contact with narcissists your life is impacted. Many victims and survivors feel like their time with narcissists is filled with chaos and confusion. The “good times” only last for a while, and you can’t stop replaying the difficult moments, especially at night.

The cycle of narcissistic abuse is an exhaustive circular pattern of idealization, devaluation, discarding, and hoovering. To maintain control over their victims and get what they want this is how narcissists behave. Recognizing this toxic cycle helps you gain insight into manipulative tactics. Knowing this information will help you separate the real person from the mask the narcissist wears. Even if you cannot predict the narcissist’s exact next move you will know what the general narcissist’s patterns are to help you remain grounded.

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Say Yes to Boundaries and No to Contact

Establishing clear boundaries is essential when dealing with a narcissist. One of their main tactics is to invade personal boundaries. When narcissists overstep boundaries, it is common to feel violated and drained. It is important for you to learn what you will and will not tolerate. Boundaries add an extra layer of protection for you.

Although many people consider boundaries as a way to keep people at a distance, boundaries also help people practice self-control. Remember, the boundaries you set are not just for the narcissist they are for yourself. When you set healthy boundaries, you create healthy limits. Boundaries are a protective shield against further abuse.

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Gather a Supportive System

Going no contact from a narcissist is one of the hardest battles you will face as you continue to heal from narcissistic abuse. It helps to surround yourself with a healthy supportive system. Having a strong support system will provide you with a safe space to be validated without judgment. Be selective about who you add to your support system. Choose people who you feel genuinely have your best interests in mind.

Pro Tip: Do not expect your friends and family to become mini therapists/counselors. Many people are not trained to deal with the challenges of narcissism and the deeper inner workings of healing from narcissistic abuse. This is why going to counseling is still important even when you have a support system.

Help Yourself Go No Contact by Going to Counseling  

Embrace counseling. Consider your counselor as another professional support in your support system. When you go no contact, it is important to receive as much support as you can get. Going to counseling is a positive way to take your healing journey to the next level. Counseling is another way to support yourself. Participating in counseling helps. Going to counseling is another way to know you are doing everything you can to fight your way out of the darkness caused by the narcissist.

Choose a counselor who understands narcissism (Narcissistic Personality Disorder.) This will help you to connect with a counselor who gets it. In counseling, you will be able to process your emotions and experiences without judgment. You can expect to work through grief, PTSD, (C-PTSD), betrayal trauma, anxiety, depression, life transitions, and all the many aspects that are important to you.

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Practice Working on Your Wellness

Narcissists excel at manipulating. They will use many methods to control their victims. Never forget you are worthy of a life filled with joy and peace. Taking care of your wellness is always important, especially when no contact is involved.

You can take care of your wellness by practicing self-care techniques. Engage in activities that bring you joy, such as hobbies, exercise, or mindfulness practices. Start improving your wellness by journaling and using prayer/meditation to ground yourself. Focus on increasing your self-compassion, reframing negative self-talk with loving messages to yourself. Practice developing a more positive mindset. You can learn more about how to do these wellness options in counseling.

Maintain Strict No Contact

Break the addictive cycle by reminding yourself of the pain and toxicity the narcissist brought into your life. Stay committed to your healthy decisions. Over time, you will experience a newfound freedom and a renewed sense of self. Remember why you have decided to not allow the narcissist in your life. Use these points to motivate you to maintain no contact with the narcissist.

When or if you are feeling like you want to break no contact consider the risk of reconnecting with the narcissist. Find healthy distractions to help you maintain no contact and stay away from the narcissist. Remember, when the narcissist has access to you there is a potential risk for more danger.

Going no contact from a narcissist is a courageous act of self-preservation and self-love. Recognizing the narcissistic cycle, establishing boundaries, gathering a supportive network, protecting your wellness, and maintaining strict no contact, you are embarking on a transformative experience to healing and personal growth. Remember, you are worthy of joy, love, respect, and peace. Embrace every opportunity to rediscover your true self. Live a life you love.

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