Some Women Fear the Fire. Some Women Simply Become it.” -R.H. Sin
This quote is one of my favorite quotes of all time. When I am being faced with a challenge that I know is going to take a lot more effort I recall this quote. Even as a fantastic counselor providing amazing counseling (positive self-talk) to people, I am not immune to the challenges of life. To truly embrace life for all, it has to offer means learning how to face the difficulties of life.
This post will help you uncover important skills for facing the difficulties in your life. Fear stops you. It prevents us from making decisions, moving forward, and trying new experiences. Self-doubt keeps you stuck, trapped in places, or with people that no longer add value to your life. Self-doubt and negative thoughts keep you locked away from your greatest potential. Fan the flames with this post and watch your life truly take shape.
Feelings of not being good enough, and worrying everything will fall apart do not serve you. Sleepless nights and endless worry are not getting you to the next level. If fear has been holding you back the time to change is now.
Common thoughts of people living in fear and self-doubt
- I’m not smart
- I should be further along in life
- I should have done better
- Everyone is going to think I’m dumb
- I’m not going to do well
- I’m afraid
- I’ am worried
- This will be embarrassing
- It probably won’t work
- I hate myself
- I am not a good person
- Nothing good will happen to/for me
The good stuff happens
When you start to stand up to the fires life brings great changes to happen. Begin to live a more satisfying life. Instead of being paused in perfection or frozen in fear you take hold of your life.
Of course, no one wants to get burned. It’s natural to protect yourself. The idea of trying something new and failing is scary. Consider how much life would look if you never make changes. When you try nothing, nothing happens. Embrace the experiences in your life rather than living in regret.
Staying stuck in fear and playing it safe gets you nowhere
Playing it safe all the time doesn’t get you anywhere. Not taking chances, and staying stuck will not help you get to where you want to be. The only way we find out what we are made of is to go all-in on life. Staying on the sidelines and watching others play is nice, it might even feel a bit safer, but is it living.
Be an active person in your life. Passiveness has its place, but not here. This is your life. Challenges will come and you can overcome them. Just because we do not get completely burned by the fire doesn’t mean we won’t experience smoke damage.
Learning to wrestle with the fires instead of avoiding them can help you reach your full potential. Committing to actively participate in your life welcomes the opportunity to have amazing experiences in your life. You are not created to simply exist, expand your territory. Below are just a few of the many benefits that can happen when you face fires in your life.
How facing challenges help you
There are a ton of great reasons to start embracing life instead of living in fear and self-doubt. Begin to live a life you are pleased with, instead of just dreaming about it. Increase your happiness, and invite more peace into your life. Experience joy as your confidence builds. Fighting against self-doubt allows you to find out what you are truly capable of in life. Stretch beyond where you are in this moment. You will begin to embrace moments rather than live with regret. You change and your strength builds. All of this goodness is waiting for you on the other side of fear and self-doubt.
Be here now
Stay present in the moment, instead of getting too far ahead of yourself. Look at where you are, get your bearings, and move forward. Don’t think about the next 5 years of your life. Think about today at this exact moment where you are in life. This grounding activity can help stop some of those racing, anxious thoughts.
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FIND JOYDevelop a willingness to try
Instead of thinking about everything that can go wrong you can consider what new opportunities will come your way. This means you have a chance to learn new things, try new experiences and connect to more possibilities. Look at all the opportunities to improve the quality of your life if you try. Be willing to show up and try. Do not sit in your bed or lay on your couch, thinking about what you should get done. Don’t spend extra time talking yourself out of it.
Take action
Get yourself in gear. Take action and do something. Get up offa that thing -James Brown. Do something instead of just thinking about it. When you embrace life instead of avoiding it you grow.
Jump in
Just like with swimming sometimes you just have to take the plunge and go all in. Don’t give yourself time to think too long. The temperature of the water may not be perfect. The sun may be halfway between the clouds but that doesn’t mean it’s not shining. Your bathing suit may not match your towel to dry off that doesn’t mean they won’t let you into the pool. Get in the water and swim.
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Make no excuses for yourself
Life is hard sometimes. There will be challenges, obstacles, setbacks, and disappointments at times. Hurt and fear of being hurt is a major reasons people don’t face the challenges of life. This is the time to make no excuses for creating the life you want to lead.
If you reading this right now you have survived a pandemic, and outrageous gas prices you can do this. Since you know there will be those down times in life make no excuses for yourself. Get up and make things happen. Get up and face the day. Face the fears that have been holding you down for far too long.
It’s time to step up
How long are you going to let fear hold you back? How many more years are you going to keep your potential on pause? Let’s find out what your life will look like when you face the fire together. Schedule your appointment to harness your inner power today!
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