Becoming two strangers with shared memories is hard. As you continue to heal from massive damage caused by the narcissist you can expect to wonder how the narcissist feels about you going no contact. Going no contact is an incredibly painful decision made as you continue your healing journey. Letting go is a powerful decision in your healing journey. Know that as each day passes you are moving further away from the narcissist manipulations and closer to transformation. In this blog post, you will discover the answers to how a narcissist feels when you go no contact.
This is not a secret; it is difficult and intensely painful to go no contact with narcissists. At the same time, there is so much power that comes from committing to doing what is best for yourself.
In the beginning, having no contact with the narcissist is very difficult. It is natural to feel a mix of emotions. Breaking the connection to someone you trusted is complicated.
The trauma bond is one of the top reasons survivors struggle with having no contact. Initially, extreme codependency leads to feelings similar to withdrawal. Many survivors have reported feeling like they need to detox from the narcissist.
Having no contact with the narcissist is an opportunity to reclaim your life. Taking courageous steps to increase your inner peace and prioritize your well-being is important.
Going No Contact is Hard for You and the Narcissist
It is important to recognize every person cannot go no for various reasons. If you are not able to go no contact, consider going low contact. Consider using the B.I.F.F., D.E.E.P. techniques if you must interact with the narcissist. When children are involved know that public exchanges, witnesses, and additional protective measures must be considered. Make every effort to protect yourself. Consider making changes such as how, when, why, and what you communicate with the narcissist to protect yourself.
Choosing to go no contact takes courage. It is a powerful step in your healing journey that will test your resilience and strength. You got this!
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The Narcissist is Afraid of You Going No Contact
You would not believe it at first glance but the narcissist is terribly afraid of your going no contact with them. However, many survivors struggle with feeling powerless and hopeless so do narcissists. This is not an attempt for you to feel sorry for the narcissist. To be clear, DO NOT FEEL SORRY FOR THE NARCISSIST. Many narcissists have difficulties with fear of abandonment, although they do not make it easy to be with them. I say this to help you understand even when you do not feel like it, you are still in a position of power. The narcissist does not want you to know that part.
Narcissists are self-focused, which means that even when you think it is about you it’s not. The narcissist isn’t afraid of losing you for the reasons you think they are there is another painful truth about the narcissist missing you. They are concerned about how your absences affects them. The narcissist is afraid of losing control, the ability to manipulate, loss of power, their perfectly curated image, source of validation, and attention.
The Narcissist is Threatened by No Contact
Narcissists focused on their needs first. Your life outside of the narcissist is a threat to the narcissist. When you go no contact, the narcissist begins to notice they are losing their ability to control you. Narcissists are highly insecure and jealous. When you start to prioritize yourself, the narcissist feels threatened.
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Narcissists like to be at the center. It does not matter what type of narcissist it is, when the attention is focused on them it feeds their needs. Going no contact helps you to heal. The longer you stay away from the narcissist the more clarity you experience. This makes the narcissist angry because you are not being controlled by them. Feeling powerless is uncomfortable for narcissists.
No Contact Means Rejection to Narcissists
Narcissists do not like to be rejected. Technically, no one does but their strong repulsion to it makes the rejection much worse. Narcissists like to have the power to accept and reject you but when the tables are turned, they do not like it. They want to be the ones that do the picking and choosing. Narcissists have very fragile egos. When they feel rejected, they become even more toxic.
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No Contact Makes Narcissists Feel Discarded
In the narcissistic cycle of abuse, the Discard stage typically happens with the narcissist leading the charge. They are the ones who discard people emotionally, mentally, financially, etc. When you decide to go no contact with the narcissist, they feel discarded. This makes the narcissist feel high levels of insecurity, vulnerability, sometimes rage, fear, and feelings of being forgotten.
No Contact Makes The Narcissist Feel Powerless
Narcissists enjoy being able to have power and control over their victims. Going no contact allows you to take ownership and healthy control of your life. The narcissist will feel like it is unfair. Narcissists operate under a double standard. For narcissists, it is acceptable for them to treat you unkindly, but it is not acceptable for you to do that to them.
No Contact is Hard but Worth It Remember to be patient with yourself. Give yourself time to process your emotions and experiences. Stay connected to your support system. Seek professional counselors who understand narcissistic abuse. Take breaks but DO NOT QUIT. Embarking on this journey allows you to prioritize your well-being. Welcome the new pathways ahead to healing, acceptance, and hope.
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