Frequently reading blogs
You might be thinking really, how could she put this on here at the top of the list? Hear me out. Of course, reading blogs isn’t a bad thing. You can learn a lot of information, gain new perspectives, and helpful insight. All of this is cool.
I can’t tell you how many times people have told me they’ve searched online for answers several times before scheduling their counseling appointment. Looking for information, checking symptoms, and signs to know more about what is bothering them is common. You want to understand. It needs to make sense. Knowing why something is the way it is or what to do with a situation is resolved with the support of your counselor. You need clarity. Being lost doesn’t feel good. Feeling confused or unsure isn’t so hot either. If you find yourself doing frequent internet searches looking for inspiration and information, it speaks to a need for more support.
A great way to take what you have read in the blogs to the next level start counseling. When you find yourself depending on the blog posts to help you resolve the issues in your life, and the relief you need isn’t happening it’s time to jump into some counseling.
My clients know we can talk about ANYTHING important to them. We do this in a nonjudgmental space. It allows people to feel comfortable with me. We discuss the problems they can’t find answers to, the issues that keep them up at night. I’m a whiz at helping people to stop overthinking. I can help you change your problem-focused thoughts to finding a million endless possibilities for positive change.
Reading a lot of self-help books
Self-help books are great. I’ve even written a few to help people. If you want to take your life to the next level of freedom, going to counseling is your next best choice. You might be the woman who has a load of self-help books waiting. You plan to read them but haven’t gotten through half of the books. You can highlight valuable reference points. You might take notes but the power is in your actions. You must apply what you have learned to your life. The information without action is only half the battle.
Learning from someone else’s experience and insight is nice, but working through your own limiting beliefs, and behaviors is a personal self-love flex. Learning how to identify your triggers, process your emotions and take meaningful action are where it’s at for personal growth.
Going to counseling is a great way to enhance your quality of life. Clients I work with are surprised at how much stronger they become as we process and work through their concerns. Finding out you aren’t overreacting, or that your feelings are valid is such a reassuring feeling. It’s a unique experience for each person. Instead of staying stuck, let’s get started.
Focusing on other peoples problems
Frequently avoiding your issues by focusing on other people’s problems is a common sign it’s time to go to counseling. If you find yourself always wrapped up in someone else’s issues there is a high probability you are avoiding your problems. You can be a caring, supportive person to others and still take care of your matters. Sometimes the avoidance of your issues creeps in without you noticing. Other times you might fully be aware of the changes you need to make in your life but you don’t do it. Focusing so much on others and not taking the time to address what’s going on in your life only leaves you depleted and defeated. I get it. It’s scary to face the problems bothering you. You might not want to do the work it will take to improve your life even if you know it’s in your best interest.
What if I fail, what if it doesn’t get better. What if people find out, all of these are valid reasons to be nervous about going to counseling. As the natural optimist and professionally trained counselor that I am, I can also say have you considered it can all work out in your favor. Let me help you heal.
Overcommitting
Saying yes to everything even if it’s not in your best interest is a strong indicator you need to go to counseling. Not only are you overwhelming yourself, but you are also self-sabotaging your inner peace. On the outside, you might look like a model community figure, partner, or team member. On the inside, you are crumbling. This is not a healthy option for making progress in life.
I help people learn to set healthy boundaries for themselves, and others in their life. Stop betraying yourself by not honoring what’s important to you. Get your cheeks in the counseling seats. (we’re virtual sit wherever you want lol) It’s time to heal. Help starts here!
Joining online groups
This might be you. The person who is in a ton of different social media groups with a specific problem similar to yours. You may have never commented or liked a post. You secretly agree with the posts but not actually liking them publicly for fear of being found out. Fear and shame cloud your thoughts making it difficult to work through your struggles.
Being a part of the group is great. Going to counseling is the next step to helping you go beyond the lurking to living. Staying stuck in online groups with no real progress in your own life leaves you stunted in your personal growth.
When a person is battling on the inside and working to gain personal insight about themselves from others’ experiences it’s hard. Of course, you don’t have to comment or like posts to receive benefits from being a part of the online community. It helps to do your work.
Doing online top-secret research is helpful. You learn a lot of information. You find out you are not alone, and you might even get some tips about how to handle a situation. You can still be a part of the groups and work through your problems in counseling.
Now is the time to say YES, to becoming the best version of yourself
Helping people break free from the failed hopes, limiting beliefs, and fear are some of the awesome supports I provide in counseling. Take the lessons from what you’ve read and apply them to your life in a personal way. This makes the journey more meaningful. Go beyond reading and take action to improve your life.
So what are you waiting for? Let’s get this party started.
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