The disagreement started clearly. You knew exactly why you felt upset and what happened to make you feel uneasy. You started to address the issue, and before you knew it, the narcissist was reversing the problem back onto you, and now you are the villain. You know this is not true, but you are struggling to stay grounded in your reasoning. Everything is upside down and now you are the problem, and the narcissist is the victim.
How did you get here? Why do they do this when there is a problem? In your journey through narcissistic abuse recovery, understanding the manipulative tactics used by narcissists is crucial. This blog will help you gain clarity about why narcissists play the victim, and how to protect yourself.
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The Victim Card: A Narcissist’s Favorite Trick
Narcissists have a knack for twisting reality to suit their needs. They often portray themselves as the injured party. The mental gymnastics narcissists go through to manipulate any and everything is unbelievable.
They are creative. Their imaginations run wild with justifications of why they did what they did or said what they said. Your head will constantly spin trying to make sense of it all. Narcissists will justify all of their actions. They will reverse the situation to make the issue seem as if the person they are hurting is hurting them. They will go to great lengths to maintain their position of victimhood.
To be clear, narcissists are NOT the victims. They know what they are doing. The victim role allows narcissists to escape.
Narcissist Confuse to Maintain Control
Narcissists want to keep their victims in a state of confusion and self-doubt. When narcissists play the victim, it is an attempt to confuse and control the actual victim. They want to disorient the victim and protect their own best interest. Flipping situations around to make circumstances support what they want works in their favor. They do not genuinely care about anyone else’s needs.
By playing the victim, narcissists undermine their victim’s self-confidence and make them question their perception of reality. Victims who are confused struggle to navigate the darkness caused by narcissists. The chaotic nature of being with narcissists makes it hard to find clarity. Confusion makes it easier for narcissists to maintain power and control.
Unfinished disagreements, unmet needs, unresolved issues, hurt, anger, frustration, and resentment happen throughout toxic narcissistic relationships. Being able to break out of the narcissistic cycle of abuse is crucial for survival.
For narcissists, playing the victim is a means of control for narcissists. When a person is confused, it is difficult to make progress. They are less likely to be able to protect themselves. This helps narcissists to continue manipulating.
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Narcissists like to Avoid Accountability
Narcissists are skilled at deflecting blame. By presenting themselves as victims, they can divert responsibility for their actions onto others. This is a classic tactic to avoid accountability.
Playing the victim allows narcissists to avoid taking responsibility. They will avoid accountability for their actions and words at all costs. Not being accountable protects narcissists from many uncomfortable moments. Narcissist confidence is low. Playing the victim helps them hide their vulnerability. They have intense levels of insecurity. They will do whatever it takes to shield themselves from responsibility.
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Being the Victim Protects Narcissists From Shame
Narcissists are extremely fragile. No matter how they present themselves to the world, they are deeply weak individuals. They wear masks to camouflage their true identity. Playing the victim allows narcissists to avoid shame. When they position people as the “bad person,” they are attempting to face shame.
Narcissists are aware of their behavior. Moving from villain to victim is another attempt to manipulate.
Playing the Victim Shifts the Focus
Blaming shifting allows narcissists to distract from problems. Owning their faults triggers intense feelings they do not want to acknowledge, so shifting the focus by playing the victim works for them. When narcissists are in the victim position, it’s another way for them to hide. Shifting focus allows narcissists to redirect their attention to anything other than the true issues happening.
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Being the Victim Lowers Defenses, Increase Sympathy
Narcissists are masters of manipulation. They are okay with the attention that gives them what they want for their needs. When narcissists play the victim, it lowers the defenses of the true victim, the other person. By invoking sympathy and appearing vulnerable, they keep their victims in a caretaker role, ensuring the attention for what the narcissists want remains on them.
By portraying themselves as victims, they draw sympathy and support from those around them. They know people are naturally inclined to help someone they perceive as suffering.
While gaining sympathy, narcissists will revert to childlike behaviors by putting the other person in a parental role. They may act innocent, and naive about their actions. Frequently victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse will say it felt like they no longer had an adult connection or relationship with the narcissist, they felt more like a parent and caregiver to them.
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Understanding why narcissists play the victim is the first step to breaking free from their manipulative grasp. Recognizing these tactics helps you regain clarity. Next, you must take healthy control of your life. It’s essential to remember that you are not alone on this journey.
Remember, narcissistic abuse recovery is a journey, and it takes time. Surround yourself with a supportive community, and don’t hesitate to reach out for help. You deserve to live a life free from the manipulation of narcissists, and with healthy support, you can reclaim your life.
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