Navigating a relationship with a narcissist is a tumultuous journey filled with emotional highs and lows. It’s crucial to understand why a narcissist might decide to let you go. This knowledge is powerful. You can reestablish your freedom instead of feeling like a failure. Break free from their manipulative grasp and reclaim your life. Let’s explore the intricate reasons behind their decision to discard you.
You Do Not Feed Their Ego
Narcissists require a constant stream of admiration. They thrive on attention and validation. These actions help support their fragile egos. If they sense or experience a shift in those needs being met, they will move into search mode. Narcissists frequently search for additional admiration, attention, validation, and praise (supply). As you become more familiar with them over time the supply you provide runs out.
Narcissists Become Bored
I know, it sucks to read this part. This DOES NOT mean they will discard you. It does mean the narcissists is more likely to explore additional supply sources in addition to you.
Boredom is a common reason for a narcissist to end a relationship. They constantly seek newness. Narcissists also seek exciting sources of admiration and stimulation. When you no longer captivate their interest, they are likely to move on to someone else who can provide the freshness and excitement they crave.
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In the beginning, before you know what you are dealing with you may not be able to see the narcissist’s character in true form. Many times, they will put on their best behavior. If it is a parent, you may not notice initially but over time you will start noticing changes in their behavior.
As time progresses you start to see the narcissist’s (toxic person’s) behavior. Too many outbursts, subtle passive-aggressive comments, and behaviors become difficult to miss. Not only does the narcissist keep a record of these behaviors they are also monitoring you. Narcissists will note you have seen them when they are not on their best behavior. Seeing them in their true form reveals a different layer of their character. This is referred to as the narcissist mask slip.
A mask slip can cause moment momentary shame. Narcissists will work at all costs to avoid shame. They hate accountability and responsibility as well. Because the narcissist will know that you have seen them in their most unfavorable light, they’re more likely to be willing to let you go. It is a way for them to avoid accountability and any type of discomfort. The narcissist wants to protect themselves at all costs. Even if it hurts you.
You Are a Threat
When the narcissist knows you know you become a threat. As you gain insight into their true nature you can make or break them. You know who they truly are and could expose them. The looming danger of being unmasked often compels them to distance themselves from you to protect their carefully constructed facade.
Even if they never mentioned it to you, they are aware of this fact. They are hoping that you will love, like, and care about them enough that you never expose their true character.
Narcissists are frequently insecure and unstable. They may present themselves as stoic, knowledgeable, and confident, but it is all fake. They might even start to truly believe the lies and the outrageous stories/lies they tell.
The Narcissist is Tired of You
Narcissists are extremely fickle in their attachments, quickly growing bored with their current source of supply once it no longer serves their needs. If they perceive you as no longer stimulating or useful, they may discard you. Narcissists discard allows them the opportunity to find someone new and exciting. This cyclical pursuit of newness is driven by their need for constant excitement and validation.
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You Become Sick
A narcissist’s empathy deficit makes them ill-equipped to handle genuine emotional or physical needs. If you become ill and require support, they may abandon you. When you cannot provide the supply, they need you to expect a detachment, discard, or a change in the narcissists. Many times, you can expect all three. Your needs become an inconvenience. Narcissists are unwilling to accommodate. This reveals their true selfish nature.
A narcissist will accommodate you if there is something in it for them. For example, if you become ill and the narcissist is attending to you, they may receive support from others by being known as a caring supportive, loving spouse, partner, or parent which still feeds into their supply.
It is always about what is in it for the narcissist. Even when it looks like they are doing something for you it is ultimately for themselves.
The Narcissist and You Have Made a Financial Commitment
Financial commitments can both bind and repel a narcissist. While they might initially use financial entanglements to control you, the burden of responsibility can drive them away. The potential for financial scrutiny makes them willing to let you go.
Narcissists prefer relationships where they hold all the power. Shared financial obligations disrupt that balance. The fear of losing financial control or being held accountable often leads them to abandon the commitment.
You Become Pregnant
Pregnancy introduces a level of responsibility and attention that a narcissist may find intolerable. Maybe victims and survivors also report they notice a shift once the pregnancy occurs, sometimes immediately. This happens because the narcissist then knows that they have you in their life permanently. The need to keep up the best behavior becomes less necessary.
During pregnancy, the narcissist may consider the focus shifts from them to the unborn child. The demands of parenthood can be overwhelming for someone who is inherently self-centered. The narcissist may choose to leave rather than face the challenges and diminished attention that come with having a child, unable to cope with the shift in dynamics.
Also, if the person becomes pregnant and they are a narcissistic/toxic person they may also shift in a negative manner knowing they will have a certain level of access to you from there on out.
Some narcissists stay because they want to receive the praise and attention that comes from being an active parent. Also, the children serve as another source of supply.
The Narcissist Doesn’t Like Your Appearance
Narcissists often place a high value on appearances, both their own and those of their partners. If your appearance changes in a way they disapprove of, they may be willing to let the person go. Their superficial nature drives them to seek partners who enhance their image. Frequently narcissists will seek a person who provides a sense of pride and validation. Any change in your appearance that doesn’t align with their ideal can be a trigger for them to let the person go.
You Are Becoming More Confident
As you grow more confident and self-assured, you are less likely to be manipulated. Your newfound strength threatens their control. This makes you less appealing as a source of narcissistic supply. Your confidence disrupts the power dynamic. Narcissists will then seek someone more easily influenced and controlled.
The Narcissist Can No Longer Control You
Control is paramount to a narcissist. As you become more confident you become less able to control. When you reach a point where their manipulations no longer affect you, they lose interest. Your ability to assert boundaries and maintain independence weakens their dominance. This leads them to abandon the relationship and search for a more compliant person. Their need for control means they cannot tolerate a person who stands up to them and refuses to be manipulated.
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